Chatting

What is the difference?????

I find that on a daily basis people are complaining about online chatting and chat programs for your mobile phone or pc. Most of the time it stems from young kids ending up with sending naked pictures of themselves or married people ending their marriages cause they met someone online and prefers that person and the way they do things. Last week i received an email title "Mxit again" for some of you who knows this mxit is a chat software for your mobile phone. Well in the email was two pics of a 15year old girl posing in it which she had sent to a contact of hers.

I remember the person who forwarded the email saying how can we stop mxit from being used. Now my view is, is it mxits fault or is it the two teenagers in question thats at fault? i mean yes they are chatting via mxit and its their private conversation so clearly the pic exchange is private to, so now they choose to send each other these pics so i would say that is a personal and private choice right? so why bash and blame mxit? what is the difference between Mxit, Migg33, Bluepulse (these are all chat softwares for mobile phones)? Then also what is the difference if you go online into a chat room and invite someone to a private chat and they want a pic or two of you.

What is the difference? who is at fault? the chat programs and chat rooms or is it the way people use it? from personal experience, i have met so many people online its not funny really but you know what is amazing, every one is special in their own ways. How and what you do with the friendship or relationship is really up to you and that other person. If you chose to be more intimate with some and not with others , its your life and your choice. But always keep in mind that you have to be careful in whatever it is you do. i dont think the chat programs and chatrooms are to blame for what young teenagers and even married people are doing, i think its a personal issue and its personal choice. Its the people who do these things not the programs and that is one thing i think people need to realise...............

Friendship

There comes a time in ones life where you sit down and think how incredibly lucky you are to have amazing friends in your life. The question is do we take the time to thank them for always being there for you when you need them the most? Also are you as good enough a friend to them as well when they need you the most? Most of all how do you know that you have a good friend or a good bunch of friends? well the answer to that one is pretty easy, your bestfriend or friends define who you are. Most of the time only time will tell who your friends are and who isnt....

Last week i realised that little did i know i had a bestfriend who genuinely has the touch of a very good friend of mine. It boggled me at first cause of the way i found out but when i think about it i realise that its actually amazing. The person who i least expected to be a good friend ended up being just that.Let see i was depressed last week about something and whenever i am like that amazingly this person always calls me or sends me a message to find out how im doing. That is what shocked me cause the person never speaks to me at all but always pops up the second something is wrong with me. My friend says its a feeling that cant be explained but just knows that contact must be made and when its made the reason is revealed.

I now know what bonds i hold with all friends and i now know who are the close ones and who are not so much the close ones but at the end of the day they are my friends and im happy that i get to share my daily happenings and life with so many amazing people and i feel honoured that they feel the same way i do and think the same way i do. i think one should take the time once in a while to sit down and think of how valuable ones friends are and take the time to show them and tell them!!!!

Thanks: Fairy, Lollipop, Sassie, Daya, Nemo, Papi, $Force, T.I.Pain

My Love For You

I want us to be happy

Have you ever woken up and looked out your window up into the sky and seen the face of the one you love?Have you ever listened to a song on the radio and it reminded you of the one you love?

People always tend to ask the question, how do you know you love someone? and many try to answer it to the best of their ability. But the truth is all the different sayings and feelings about love is true and is real. A few months ago i met the sweetest guy in my eyes and so many he is the sweetest guy i know. Never did i realise that i would end up falling for him and strangely enough i did. Its funny how you can know and feel another person and it doesnt matter where that person is.

You know to me when you love someone, you dont matter anymore. That persons needs comes before yours. So when you think of it you love someone and they matter more to you then you do to yourself. With them they love you and you matter more to them then they do to themselves, that is what is called or that is what a women and man calls as "You complete me". Right now i feel complete and its a beautiful feeling, its a feeling that i want to feel forever.

To the man i love (and you know who you are) all i can say to you is My Love For You is like a desert rose!!!!!!!

Burn

A Loss

A friend of mine experienced something yesterday that i think no one would like to experience in life and that would be the loss of property to flames. He is a very strong person through this yet when you know him as well as i do the loss is killing him. Just as he gets his life back on track again after so many years of trying to sort himself out it all gets taken away by someone elses vengences to get even. Whats not right is that, that person seeked vengance from someone else and not from him yet at the end of the day he is left with nothing as his house burned to the ground leaving him with only the clothes on his back and the car he drives.

what is sad for me is that just knowing how hard this person worked to sort his life out its still shocking to know that everything he has worked for and hard for that matter is now all gone. yes i know materialistic things arent important but the hard work, sweat and tears put into that is what matters. so this is really a downer. i cant even begin to imagine how families who loses to fires lives must after that. this is one guy what about a family of four or even six.

i hope that there are people out there that can help others get back what they once had. Cause a loss to anything could drive someone to do anything they are not expected to do if they do not have the necessary or required support to help them through a tough time like this. One thing people should always keep in mind is that god has a plan for everyone and if losing something or someone is in his plan you will go through every emotion cause he will make sure of that. All one has to do when you are going through this is trust, believe and have faith that all will be well and go as it must........

The end

A dying friendship

About 8months ago i met this brilliant young man, initially when we met i had thought he was older then me cause when you sat and spoke to him you would think his at a good age. Well he was actually a year younger then me but that never phased us cause the friendship was good.

This guy ended up taking on a role of bestfriend and brother and me i actually took on the role of bestfriend and sister. Whenever he needed someone to talk to i was the one he ran to and when i needed someone to talk to i would always go to him. you always find someone in your path of life that you can really relate to and enjoy ever moment you spend with that person. Also you end up being so happy in that friendship, arguing and disagreements doesnt even cross your mind. But what happens when suddenly you get a message saying the friendship ends?

I for one felt crap but the reason that was given is understandable. what i think is really good is that still at the end of the day you not mad at that person but you actually grant them well wishes for the future. I just hope that him moving to another country is going to help him grow even more then he has and that when he is the person he wants to be again he will call me and say the normal "Hey sis hows it going?"

The loss of a person is never easy and how we deal with it isnt easy either but what doesnt kill you makes you stronger!!!!

Case of the EX!!

It all falls down

Recently i went through a break up which i thought was in my best interest to just cut my loses and call it a day and carry on with life and try to learn from my experience. As it was a long distance relationship and let me emphasize very long distance relationship.

As the person thats doing the breaking up you sit and try to think of ways to salvage what little is left from the relationship, just so that you dont end up breaking the other persons heart. Like me for example i was the one to end it cause i felt like more of a need then a girlfriend and some how someway he managed to turn things around and call me selfish for ending it and not giving us a chance. little did he know that all the warnings that was sent his way was me giving him chance after chance and clearly he didnt take note of that.

But what happens when that persons feelings turns into anger or rage? well they act on it and there are always serious implications. One thing i have learned is that no matter what people say break up is hard for the person doing the break up and the person being broken up with. At the end of the day they become your ex for a reason. I am a firm believer of people deserve second chances in life yes but when it comes to relationships in a romantic way there is just no going back, it is extremely hard to give that person a second chance, why?

Cause they will always hold you to your wrongs and thats why with a break up it should all fall down and end!!!!!