Case of the EX!!
It all falls down
Recently i went through a break up which i thought was in my best interest to just cut my loses and call it a day and carry on with life and try to learn from my experience. As it was a long distance relationship and let me emphasize very long distance relationship.
As the person thats doing the breaking up you sit and try to think of ways to salvage what little is left from the relationship, just so that you dont end up breaking the other persons heart. Like me for example i was the one to end it cause i felt like more of a need then a girlfriend and some how someway he managed to turn things around and call me selfish for ending it and not giving us a chance. little did he know that all the warnings that was sent his way was me giving him chance after chance and clearly he didnt take note of that.
But what happens when that persons feelings turns into anger or rage? well they act on it and there are always serious implications. One thing i have learned is that no matter what people say break up is hard for the person doing the break up and the person being broken up with. At the end of the day they become your ex for a reason. I am a firm believer of people deserve second chances in life yes but when it comes to relationships in a romantic way there is just no going back, it is extremely hard to give that person a second chance, why?
Cause they will always hold you to your wrongs and thats why with a break up it should all fall down and end!!!!!
6 comments:
yea we all see that you gave him chance after chance... but how hard was it for him not just yourself. Empaty look it up. Put yourself in his shoes what did he go thoug day by day to get to you to take the time to be with you to work untill exhaustion to travel to be by your side... None of that matters does it?
Well breaking up isnt easy for both parties involved. One sits and sits and sits and tries to figure out the rights and the wrongs. you sit and you try to figure out a way to not go through a break up. but if at the end of the day there are no solutions then the best option would be break up. No matter what both parties has done or hasnt it all mostly comes down to whether there is happiness or not.
NO it comes down to whos willing to sacrifice for what they belive in. Who's willing to have a dream of a life of a future and who's just too weak to see it thru.... It's not like he was NEVER there was he? He made absolutly no effort what so ever? Or was he trying his damn'dst to be there only to be let down by cell phones bad networks and never gotten messages? What it comes down to is you were fearful and that fear drove you from him that lack of strength casued you to feel he was ignoring you nothing else.
Well one thing i can tell you is that i am not a weak person. Infact i am a very strong person and i have so many people in my life that looks up to me old and young cause of the strong person i am. i have my fears like everyone else yes but my fears are not regarding love and relationship. so i think you are reading into this in a very wrong way.I agree with you when you say it comes down to sacrifice in what you believed. from my side i sacrificed alot and in life one can only sacrifice so much to a point where it gets to much so they end up giving up sacrificing the things that they have. I have always lived by a saying that goes "Small things sink big ships" so to me its not about how much was done but what it contributed and if it contributed for the good then great but if it contributed into a down fall then thats not so good, is it?
Yes, but as you see it everything sank your ship on a daily basis. Sure he couldnt always be there 24/7 thats life but you constaly blamed him for it blamed him for everything that went wrong with the relationship. It takes 2 to tango and 2 to make things go right or wrong. You blame him, blame yourself
Sorry but i am not blaming him cause initially i did say to him that we are both to blame. You are so right when you say it takes two tango exactly on the mark there. But with me i was the only one having to sit and wait until he decided "right now im going to take note of her". so like i say yes the relationship went wrong in many ways possible but that then just proves that it wasnt meant to be
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