A Mothers Cry

Over the past two days, i have been emailing one of my friends who is Australian and lives in Australia. She has recently found out that one of her son's has been diagnosed with High Functioning Autism and to make matters worse her baby of a few months old is showing signs of it as well. She is a single mother who has 4 kids and the dad is just a useless piece of junk (in my eyes). He doesnt want to really be apart of his children's lives but when they need him to sign a parental consent for one of them to do something he kicks against the curb not wanting to sign anything and he is just plain difficult, making things even more difficult for my friend.

As we continue to talk about how she feels and what she is going through at the moment i can really sense that she is hurting, i mean this is her child. Regardless of the fact that she is a single mother, like every mother out there she loves her child and it is hurting her to be experiencing this in her life. i feel so bad cause i cant help her in anyway other then allow her to talk about how she feels and what this is doing to her. i must say yesterday talking to her she was freaking out not knowing how she will cope with the whole situation but i have tried to make her see things from all angles and i am glad to say that today she is feeling much much better.

This makes me think seeing as South Africa recently celebrated Womans day that this in a weird way is kind of fitting. It makes me think that us females are strong enough to with stand anything and everything that is thrown our way.We deal with it the best way we can possibly think of dealing with it which is a gift from GOD. he bring us to it and he will bring us through it if we allow it which i really think we should do. We as woman dont really realise our strength or the ability we have to handle things because we believe that we cant get through it but the minute we do, we are so amazed, Why i do not know.

I believe that God will see my friend through this time in life and help her in every way possible to get through this and allow her and her children to experience some happiness and see that tomorrow bring a brighter day. I will be as supportive as i can be all the way down here from South Africa and she knows it.

Changes

Today has changed my mindset about somethings and mainly life big time. Not only have i experienced the joy of knowing that my friend gave birth to her little boy today but i also experienced pain two hours later. I got told by the person that i love more then anything and i would without a doubt do anything for that person and yes of course i am talking about my boyfriend Gawain, confirmed my worse fear ever. He confirmed or rather just took it upon himself to tell that the wedding we were or i was planning for the 29th October 2011, well he doesnt want to get married next year anymore.

That bit of information hit me so hard i didnt know whether i was sitting, standing, laying, sleeping, dreaming, nightmaring. Didnt know my left from my right, top from bottom i just got hit harder then i could ever imagine. I mean here we are every single month buying things for our future home and at the same time planning a wedding and well bam he hits me with that bit of information. All i said was thank you for letting me know and i left the conversation without getting a why, how come or anything like that. i couldnt bring myself to asking or finding out because i didnt really expect it.

Im sitting at my desk now not knowing which way forward and not really sure what i should think. All i know is that i am really hurt and dont know how to react other then ball my eyes out every few seconds of the day as i cant contain my emotions as this wouldve been one of the biggest days of not just my life but his and his parents and my parents and our families. atleast not many people from my end knew about the wedding including my parents. So yeah thats the easy part, there isnt alot of people to tell from my end. but many know from his side, so he is going to have to tell them that he no longer wants to get married. As for me i guess i will rather allow this to strength me.

New Life

On this day at 10h20 South African time and 9h20 British time, a little baby boy was born. My bestfriend of 5yrs gave birth to her 3rd child after quite a few years. Bringing another life into this world is not something that i have experienced yet. However new life brought into this world is a gift from god and changes everything. I have experience of two new lives coming into mine and my home in a form of my nephew and neice.

They are so precious and so special, a day doesnt go by where there isnt something new they teach me something and where they dont learn something from me. Before they were born things at home was dull and boring. Yet now you find little feet running around, you hear fine and tiny little voices and most of us well everyone doesnt like being woken up early but hey that the duty of a kid. I personally cant wait for the day when its my turn. I dont know whether i will be ready but what do know is that my life will change even more then what it has over the past two years.

To Lisa, even though you have done the mummy thing already with Kieran and Shannon, there is no greater feeling then having to do it again. I know that you already are the coolest mum i know and that baby could not have asked for someone better to be his mum. I hope he will bring you as much joy as his brother and sister and i hope that he keeps them short and remind them daily that his the youngest and he can get anyways with anything and everything LOL. i cant wait to see baby until then and until he gets his name, Congrats Lisa and Terry he is a gift in a way that you least expect it and let the good times and nappy changing begin :)

25 Years Old

On the 21st November 1983 at23h34pm the evening a baby girl was born. That baby girl is now a full grown or maybe i should say still growing adult. 25yrs later she had her up's and downs and has experienced life like not many has before. Yes the 25 year old i speak of is none other then me myself and I. Friday i celebrated my 25th birthday and much to my surprise it was not half as bad as i thought it would be i dont know hey for some reason i thought it was gonna be something really bad or just something really weird but it wasnt.

I was woken up on friday morning with an sms from my boyfriend wishing me (he was the first to wish me) his message sparked a storm of messages from all over the world. got so many messages wishing me and so many phone calls wishing me i lost count by 9am the morning. At the end of the day i can sit here and say i had the most amazing birthday, different but amazing. i had everyone i loved around me celebrating my day and telling stories about when i was a little girl and the things i use to do. some was funny and some were shockers.

The only thing i can say right now is that god has blessed me even though we tend to not see his wonderful work and ways and paths that his opened for us there comes a time when one needs to sit and think about all he has done and say thank you god for all you have done for me. everything we go through in life is what he wants us to go through is what he wants us to learn from is what he wants us to experience and what he wants us to pay attention to. the first thing i did friday morning was go down on my knees with a tear in my eye and i thanked the all mightly for carrying me through 25years of my life. i do not live on my own graces i live on his graces and for that i thanked him for everything he has done for me and most importantly having a hand in bringing me into this world.

To everyone in my life, friends and family! Thank you all for being there when i needed you most thank you for all the wishes and happiness you bring into my life. thank you for putting up with me as i know im not the easiest person to live with. Thank you just for letting me be me and letting me say what is needed to say when the time is there for me to say it. Thank you for being in my life. everyone brings alittle something extra to my life and holds a small part of them in me and that is the way it is going to stay.

Im 25years old here i am ready to take on what ever challenges my age will bring me what ever experiences it will throw my way and most of all im happy that i am still who i am today~~

21 November 2008

Something New

A few months ago i started asking myself the one simple question in life that many people always end up trying to figure out for themselves. The question was "Will I ever find some form of happiness in my life?". At the time when I was thinking about that question I had been through quite a few detours in my life and was at a point where once again i just felt like giving up on everything and everyone in my life. This was only the second ever time that I thought or felt that way. I had come to the conclusion or lets just say i settled with the fact that i was never gonna be or never gonna find happiness for myself.

I honestly believed that in most things or aspects of my life that it would be the end of it. I hardly smiled at anything or anyone and i found myself cutting out many people including those close to me. In that time i had cut myself off many people i also decided that i didnt want to even consider getting into any form of relationship either.That was the time i ended up finding myself and getting to know who i really was. the type of person i am and the type of nature i could bring into others lives. Eventually upon doing that i took a leap off the edge of the mountain and for the last time went against something that i set up for myself.

I decided to go ahead and meet someone new, i mean what did i have to lose. i wasnt happy, i had this icyness about me. i just couldnt care less, i would just walk around thinking oh well im probably setting myself up to get hurt again BUT life is about risks. we put ourselves through risks every single day, so i took my last risk and i went ahead and met him. The first time we met i was kinda still on the mindset that i am gonna stay unhappy and nothing anyone says or does is gonna change what i think. (im just difficult like that) the second meeting i basically was the same. The turning point for me was the third meeting. after that i realised the type of person i was seeing and that person was totally different from what i was use to.

Now 6months later i guess my risky leap turned out to be something positive cause now i find myself randomly sitting and smiling for no reason at all. I actually look forward to spending time with that person and seeing that person. i dont know what it is but there is something that always keeps me going back for more and 98% of me enjoys this new venture or let me say new episode in my life. for the first time in a year i am officially happy. i have only felt happiness within a relationship twice and it seems to me that third time lucky is a fact. even though this is still the last for me. im not negative about this, im not unhappy, im not wondering whether this is right or wrong. cause im sure that this is right. im sure that im happy and most all im sure about the person and im sure about my feelings.

2008 thus far was an emotional rollercoaster for me but i seemed to have managed to come out on top. i feel stronger, i am mentally stronger and even though there is only a month and a half left for 2008. i would say that i have entered the better part of the year and the best is still to come cause i know that there is still gonna be much more happiness coming my way as for the first time in a long time i am me again and i am happy and i am positive and that is all thanks to one person and he should know who he is (hopefully) lol

so to new beginnings and thank you for being the new light, the new smile and the joy and happiness that has finally come into my life. Hopefully itll stay this way for a very very very long time. cause everyday is now a pleasure to wake up to ~~

Friends

PEOPLE COME INTO YOUR LIFE FOR A REASON:

I am sending this to you to see how many actually read their email. Your response will be interesting.
Pay attention to what you read. After you have finished reading it, you will know the reason it was sent to you. Here goes:

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. (or for you to offer the same FOR or to THEM). They may seem like a godsend and they are.. They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

Lisa, Jodie, Heather, Sicelo, Arnold, Jimmy, Emron

How alike can people be

i recently met this young man who is a few years younger then me. Much to my surprise and also to his we discovered that we are so much alike its actually scary. when we chat he knows what i will say next and i tend to know what he is thinking when we are talking.

freaky? i think not

we have adjusted to it and we are actually telling everyone we are siblings. i for one is starting to enjoy the friendship and the brother/sisterhood that we have going on. its one experience i have never in my existance thought i would come across. best part is even though we are so much alike we tend to learn new things every single day.

so i say to everyone, go out there find the person who is just like you. experience the fun, the laughter, the serious moments, the conversations and the fact that you can be you cause the person is that way as well. trust me you wont look back saying why did i do something that stupid, you would actually look back with a smile saying "that is the best experience ive had"

Emron we have a long way to go but seeing as you are very much like me and i am very much like you. it is easy to say that we are going to have a blast every step we take together lil brother!!!

A thought of a friend

Tears of an lost soul

What we strive 2 be is not what we become. We become more or less than what we set out 2 be. Life is not a mystical unanswered stabile substance but an experiment of choices. - By Zavier Jacobs


Your mind is young and full of life. Your thoughts are amazing and something that is not often put to paper. You grow from life and see what its like. You experience it different to anyone your age. You are a man of strength and strive. You will find the person you are meant to be. For now from me to you, your the most intriguing person to ever walk the surface of my life and for that i say you define the phrase "your one in a million"

Rekindled Friendship

Over the past id say 2-3months old friendships have been rekindled. One would never think that the people who chose to have me back in their lives would come back to try and rebuild the friendship. I mean i am the type of person who believes that in certain situations everyone deserves a second chance. yet i still always think "ok but why do it the first time"

from that clearly alot of explanations and stories arise from it and yet you still think "are you hiding something or not?" or you maybe end up like me and think "is there something you want from me". in some instances you will find that yes people merely try to come back cause they need you for some or other reason. then you get the people that one you back in there lives cause they feel you have made a contribution before toward there existance and you still can and probably will do that.

well i think from my point of view and also from what i have experience sometimes giving that second chance could change your life and the other persons life. i have yet to discover why the people who are making their way back into my life, want that second chance. things have been good so far but i go into a conversation thinking "is this going to end well or not"

maybe i should let sleeping dog lie and see what the out come of all this is. one thing is for sure that this is the second and last time for them and any form or sense of injury toward the friendship and everything they have worked toward would mean nothing cause it would end right there and then........

This is who i am

I asked all my friends whether i am a bad person or not. I got a few replies but one shone above the rest. Instead of answering my question he defined me to who i am. What he doesnt know is the definition he gave about me is who i truly am. Zuko this ones for you, i only know you a few months but your bound to be one of my closest friends forever.

Zuko's Definition:

Well that is difficult for me to answer, cos I have only seen your nice side… I’m not saying you have a nasty side, I just have never experienced that side of you if you do have one! You have only been nice to me so I only have good thoughts and judgments for you!

Personality wise you are very strong, powerful but yet kind and soft at the same time so many might mistaken your bold, powerful personality negatively and see it as a threat or you just being horrible!

But you must remember we were all made to be different (UNIQUE), and different people will see different people differently. What Is important is that you accept yourself for who you are, before you worry about what others think of you!

Zuko your one of the few people i can really talk to about anything and whats important is that your one of the few people who really pays attention and defines true friendship. thanks for being a friend and from me to you "True Friends Last A Lifetime"

Lost

Have you ever had a moment in your life when you feel so lost yet you knew something would happen for you to get this feeling? One things for sure it is one weird feeling that i really dont like and it tends to happen to me alot. I think i should ask the question, what can i do to prevent this feeling? For now all i can do is ride it out and see where it takes me. Phhheeeewwww few minutes ago i realised that i have been dismissed from someone's life AGAIN. Now i have that lost feeling again, cause i really didnt know it would happen. But i think i know why yet im not going to assume and jump to all sorts of weird reasons. ill just leave it be and hope for the best, whatever the best really is in this instant.

Kinda makes me think if who i am and how i am is really good for me or is it just the people in my life. One thing i know for sure is that whats best for me right now is just to over look all the negitivity happening around me right now and just move along with what makes me happy. Which is really the simple things in life, listening to music, watching movies and playing games. Maybe that would distract me from current happenings.

As for the person who recently took the step of removing me from their life. Well if there is anything i did wrong to deserve this then fair enough deleting me was the right thing to do. It would then be understandable as to why removing me was the best option for you. If there is another reason for why this has happen then i guess lol there is nothing i can do but to understand why it was done. Just know that i was always honest with you in everything i said and everything i felt. So i am sorry if i had done you wrong!!

Sings for the moment

[Verse #1]
These ideas are nightmares for white parents
Whose worst fear is a child with dyed hair and who likes earrings
Like whatever they say has no bearing
Its so scary in a house that allows no swearing
To see him walking around with his headphones blaring
Alone in his own zone, cold and he dont care
He's a problem child, what bothers him all comes out
When he talks about his f**kin' dad walkin out
Cos he hates him so bad that he blocks him out
But if he ever saw him again, he'd prolly knock him out
His thoughts are whacked, he's mad so he's talkin' back
Talkin black, brainwashed from rock and rap
He sags his pants, 2 rags and a stocking cap
His step-father hit him so he socked him back
And broke his nose, this house is a broken home
There's no control, he just lets his emotions go
Come on...

[Chorus:]
Sing now, sing for the year
Sing for the moment, sing for the tears
Sing with me, just for today
Maybe tomorrow, the good Lord will take you away

[Verse #2]
Entertainment is danger, intertwine it with gangsters
In the land of the killers, a sinner's mind is a sanctum
Only you're unholy, only have one homey
Only this gun, lonely, 'cause don't anyone know me
But everybody just feels like they can relate
I guess words are a motherf**ker, they can be great
Or they can be great, or even worse, they can teach hate
Its like kids hang on every single statement we make
Like they worship us, plus all the stores ship us platinum
Now how the f**k did this metamorphasis happen?
From standin' on corners and porches just rappin'
To havin' a fortune, no more kissin' ass
But then these critics crucify you, journalists try to burn you
Fans turn on you, attorney's all gonna turn it to
To get their hands on every dime you have
They want you to lose your mind every time you mad
So they can try to make you out to look like a loose canon
You need to spew, dont hesitate to produce air-guns
Thats why these prosecutors wanna convict me
[Sing For The Moment lyrics on http://www.metrolyrics.com]

Swiftly just to get me offa these streets quickly
But all their kids been listen'n to me religiously
So i'm signing cds while police fingerprint me
They're for the judges daughter, but his grudge is against me
If i'm such a f**kin' menace, this shit doesnt make sense, Pete
It's all political, if my music is literal and i'm a criminal,
How the f**k can i raise a little girl?
I couldn't. i wouldn't be fit to
You're full of shit too, Guerrera, that was a fist that hit you!

[Chorus]

[Verse #3]
They say music can alter moods and talk to you
But can it load a gun for you and cock it too?
Well if it can, then the next time you assault a dude
Just tell the judge it was my fault, and i'll get sued
See what these kids do, is hear about us toting pistols
And they want to get one, cos they think the shit's cool
Not knowin' we're really just protectin' ourselves
We're entertainers, of course this shit's affecting our sales
You ignoramus. but music is reflection of self
We just explain it, and then we get our cheques in the mail
It's f**ked up ain't it, how we can come from practically nothin'
To bein' able to have any f**kin' thing that we wanted
It's why we sing for these kids that don't have a thing
Except for a dream and a f**king rap magazine
Who post pinup pictures on their walls all day long
Idolise their favourite rappers and know all they songs
Or for anyone who's ever been through shit in they lives
So they sit and they cry at night, wishing they die
Till they throw on a rap record, and they sit and they vibe
We're nothing to you, but we're the f**kin' shit in their eyes
That's why we sieze the moment, and try to freeze it and own it
Squeeze it and hold it, 'cos we consider these minutes golden
And maybe they'll admit it when we're gone
Just let our spirits live on, through out lyrics that you hear in our songs
And we can

[Chorus]

[Chorus Without Beat]

[Instrumental]

Another Year Gone

Today is my birthday and i feel some what happy and some what down. Yet at the end of the day as down as i feel i look at the past year of my life as a learning year as i do every year. I was thinking of how much of a dull and boring day i would have today cause usually i am one of those people who tend to make a big thing about everyone elses birthday and never get the same in return but this year id say is pretty much different.

receiving calls, messages, emails etc from people i havent spoken to in months is what made my day so far a good one. this morning before leaving for work i went down on my knees and thanked god from bringing me thus far and asked him for guidance and protection as i continue to live my life and i think because i did that i look at today as unforgettable. the people i least expected to care showed that they actually do care.

To Myself i would like to give these few words:

A BIRTHDAY OPENS THE PATH TO ANOTHER YEAR!

Walk in the direction of the blue sky, not the grey, Choose the bright road where Sunshine brightens your way. Wishing you a wonderful Birthday, that takes you further along the paths of all your hearts desires and dreams

Well to everyone who has made my day so far a good and enjoyable one (even though it is raining over here) Thank you for being part of this day, thank you for being part of my life and thank you for being you and that is something special.

Arsenal

The Gunners of England

Last night this team displayed the outright meaning of team work. Everyone played a strong game and at the end of the night with the strength, determination to win, strategy and agility they won 3-0 against a good team from Spain, Sevilla.

Lots of rife was going on as to whether or not the team could excel after selling top player Theirry Henry to Barcelona. I think last night they proved that they are still a strong team with out him. Displaying that a team isnt made up of one person but of 11 other players that are perfectly capable of playing just as good as the other.

CONGRATS GUYS!!! I know its just the start of the season but a good start means good play for the rest of the season. I definately look forward to watching the next championship league match as well as premiership league match as they have been playing well on both leagues~~~~

Chatting

What is the difference?????

I find that on a daily basis people are complaining about online chatting and chat programs for your mobile phone or pc. Most of the time it stems from young kids ending up with sending naked pictures of themselves or married people ending their marriages cause they met someone online and prefers that person and the way they do things. Last week i received an email title "Mxit again" for some of you who knows this mxit is a chat software for your mobile phone. Well in the email was two pics of a 15year old girl posing in it which she had sent to a contact of hers.

I remember the person who forwarded the email saying how can we stop mxit from being used. Now my view is, is it mxits fault or is it the two teenagers in question thats at fault? i mean yes they are chatting via mxit and its their private conversation so clearly the pic exchange is private to, so now they choose to send each other these pics so i would say that is a personal and private choice right? so why bash and blame mxit? what is the difference between Mxit, Migg33, Bluepulse (these are all chat softwares for mobile phones)? Then also what is the difference if you go online into a chat room and invite someone to a private chat and they want a pic or two of you.

What is the difference? who is at fault? the chat programs and chat rooms or is it the way people use it? from personal experience, i have met so many people online its not funny really but you know what is amazing, every one is special in their own ways. How and what you do with the friendship or relationship is really up to you and that other person. If you chose to be more intimate with some and not with others , its your life and your choice. But always keep in mind that you have to be careful in whatever it is you do. i dont think the chat programs and chatrooms are to blame for what young teenagers and even married people are doing, i think its a personal issue and its personal choice. Its the people who do these things not the programs and that is one thing i think people need to realise...............

Friendship

There comes a time in ones life where you sit down and think how incredibly lucky you are to have amazing friends in your life. The question is do we take the time to thank them for always being there for you when you need them the most? Also are you as good enough a friend to them as well when they need you the most? Most of all how do you know that you have a good friend or a good bunch of friends? well the answer to that one is pretty easy, your bestfriend or friends define who you are. Most of the time only time will tell who your friends are and who isnt....

Last week i realised that little did i know i had a bestfriend who genuinely has the touch of a very good friend of mine. It boggled me at first cause of the way i found out but when i think about it i realise that its actually amazing. The person who i least expected to be a good friend ended up being just that.Let see i was depressed last week about something and whenever i am like that amazingly this person always calls me or sends me a message to find out how im doing. That is what shocked me cause the person never speaks to me at all but always pops up the second something is wrong with me. My friend says its a feeling that cant be explained but just knows that contact must be made and when its made the reason is revealed.

I now know what bonds i hold with all friends and i now know who are the close ones and who are not so much the close ones but at the end of the day they are my friends and im happy that i get to share my daily happenings and life with so many amazing people and i feel honoured that they feel the same way i do and think the same way i do. i think one should take the time once in a while to sit down and think of how valuable ones friends are and take the time to show them and tell them!!!!

Thanks: Fairy, Lollipop, Sassie, Daya, Nemo, Papi, $Force, T.I.Pain

Burn

A Loss

A friend of mine experienced something yesterday that i think no one would like to experience in life and that would be the loss of property to flames. He is a very strong person through this yet when you know him as well as i do the loss is killing him. Just as he gets his life back on track again after so many years of trying to sort himself out it all gets taken away by someone elses vengences to get even. Whats not right is that, that person seeked vengance from someone else and not from him yet at the end of the day he is left with nothing as his house burned to the ground leaving him with only the clothes on his back and the car he drives.

what is sad for me is that just knowing how hard this person worked to sort his life out its still shocking to know that everything he has worked for and hard for that matter is now all gone. yes i know materialistic things arent important but the hard work, sweat and tears put into that is what matters. so this is really a downer. i cant even begin to imagine how families who loses to fires lives must after that. this is one guy what about a family of four or even six.

i hope that there are people out there that can help others get back what they once had. Cause a loss to anything could drive someone to do anything they are not expected to do if they do not have the necessary or required support to help them through a tough time like this. One thing people should always keep in mind is that god has a plan for everyone and if losing something or someone is in his plan you will go through every emotion cause he will make sure of that. All one has to do when you are going through this is trust, believe and have faith that all will be well and go as it must........

The end

A dying friendship

About 8months ago i met this brilliant young man, initially when we met i had thought he was older then me cause when you sat and spoke to him you would think his at a good age. Well he was actually a year younger then me but that never phased us cause the friendship was good.

This guy ended up taking on a role of bestfriend and brother and me i actually took on the role of bestfriend and sister. Whenever he needed someone to talk to i was the one he ran to and when i needed someone to talk to i would always go to him. you always find someone in your path of life that you can really relate to and enjoy ever moment you spend with that person. Also you end up being so happy in that friendship, arguing and disagreements doesnt even cross your mind. But what happens when suddenly you get a message saying the friendship ends?

I for one felt crap but the reason that was given is understandable. what i think is really good is that still at the end of the day you not mad at that person but you actually grant them well wishes for the future. I just hope that him moving to another country is going to help him grow even more then he has and that when he is the person he wants to be again he will call me and say the normal "Hey sis hows it going?"

The loss of a person is never easy and how we deal with it isnt easy either but what doesnt kill you makes you stronger!!!!

Win or Lose

Doesnt Matter What Its Still A Good Thing...........

I was sitting last night and chatting to a few friends whilst we were waiting for a soccer/football match to start. One of them looked at me and asked "So what if your team loses tonight and yall get kicked out, how you going to feel about it". I looked at him and smiled saying "It happens to everyone". He inturn replied saying "you have no enthuasiasm or convidence in your team them". I asked him what his point was and he couldnt answer me.

Eventually when the game was finished, it ended with a draw but my team was still kicked out simply because when we played the team two weeks ago they won us 1-0 so on aggregate they won us 2-1 to go through to the quaterfinals. he looked at me and asked me why i was smiling when my team who was in the finals last year was just kicked out before reaching the quarter finals what was wrong with me.

I turned to him saying, They may have lost and have been kicked out of one of the biggest tournaments in the world but they have gained something and that is knowledge and experience. They can now go back to the drawing boards and discuss what they did wrong, where it went wrong and how they are going to improve on it next season. He looked at me extremely shocked and said to me that for the first time i made sense.

At the end of the day no matter what the end result whether it be sport, work, life or love, you always have two options, two ways about things. Win or Lose you always gain something from it and one things for sure and i know in sport they have a brillaint saying that goes "Win or Lose, We Are Still A Team" and at the end of the day, that is all that matters still being a team at the end of it.

Enough of the rant im out!!!!!!!!

The ICE effect

The Run Around

This weekend was a blast infact i havent had so much fun for quite a while. My friends and i had a sleep over and at 21h00pm myself and a friend decided that the sleep over was just not doing it for us. So what we did was go on a while goose chase looking for the perfect pub....

I always promised my friend that if he finishes school i would take him out for a night and this year he is doing his final exam for Grade.12, so because im a person of my word i do as i say. We went looking for a good place to go and we couldnt find a place until we stumbled across the new ICE LOUNGE we have down here in cape town.

So i decided that, that will be the venue for the night and what a venue it turned out to be. The lounge is made of nothing but ice. you get given the standard poncho as it is freezing in that place. It took about 60 tons of ice to make that lounge and they got a few paint artists to do some kick ass creations on the wall and then iced it in. But as the night went on and after about our 4th cocktail each the party started rocking, music loud, people all over and just plain and pure capetonian fun. we ended up leaving the lounge at about 1h00am quite spritely and cheery and ended the night off with a couple of blizzards.

Ever get the chance to walk the streets of Cape Town, the new ICE LOUNGE is the place to be, guarenteed fun all round. But see to it that the company you go with is fun and not boring. I have already received a call from my friend saying that we have to go to the ICE LOUNGE again on saturday...hmmmmmmmm will have to see