Another Year Gone

Today is my birthday and i feel some what happy and some what down. Yet at the end of the day as down as i feel i look at the past year of my life as a learning year as i do every year. I was thinking of how much of a dull and boring day i would have today cause usually i am one of those people who tend to make a big thing about everyone elses birthday and never get the same in return but this year id say is pretty much different.

receiving calls, messages, emails etc from people i havent spoken to in months is what made my day so far a good one. this morning before leaving for work i went down on my knees and thanked god from bringing me thus far and asked him for guidance and protection as i continue to live my life and i think because i did that i look at today as unforgettable. the people i least expected to care showed that they actually do care.

To Myself i would like to give these few words:

A BIRTHDAY OPENS THE PATH TO ANOTHER YEAR!

Walk in the direction of the blue sky, not the grey, Choose the bright road where Sunshine brightens your way. Wishing you a wonderful Birthday, that takes you further along the paths of all your hearts desires and dreams

Well to everyone who has made my day so far a good and enjoyable one (even though it is raining over here) Thank you for being part of this day, thank you for being part of my life and thank you for being you and that is something special.

Arsenal

The Gunners of England

Last night this team displayed the outright meaning of team work. Everyone played a strong game and at the end of the night with the strength, determination to win, strategy and agility they won 3-0 against a good team from Spain, Sevilla.

Lots of rife was going on as to whether or not the team could excel after selling top player Theirry Henry to Barcelona. I think last night they proved that they are still a strong team with out him. Displaying that a team isnt made up of one person but of 11 other players that are perfectly capable of playing just as good as the other.

CONGRATS GUYS!!! I know its just the start of the season but a good start means good play for the rest of the season. I definately look forward to watching the next championship league match as well as premiership league match as they have been playing well on both leagues~~~~

Speech by Anna Quindlen

In light of the up coming women's day celebration that we will be having down here in South Africa on Thursday - 09 August 2007. I thought that this piece would share some up liftment in womens lives out there today!!!

This was a speech made by Pulitzer Prize-winning author Anna Quindlen, at the 1999

Graduation Ceremony at Villanova University, Pennsylvania, at which she was
awarded an Honorary Doctorate.

I'm a novelist. My work is human nature. Real life is all I know. Don't ever
confuse the two, your life and your work. You will walk out of here this
afternoon with only one thing that no one else has. There will be hundreds
of people out there with your same degree : there will be thousands of
people doing what you want to do for a living.

But you will be the only person alive who has sole custody of your life.
Your particular life. Your entire life. Not just your life at a desk, or
your life on a bus, or in a car, or at the computer. Not just the life of
your mind, but the life of your heart. Not just your bank account but your
soul. People don't talk about the soul very much anymore. It's so much
easier to write a resume than to craft a spirit. But a resume is a cold
comfort on a winter night, or when you're sad, or broke, or lonely, or when
you've gotten back the test results and they're not so good.

Here is my resume : I am a good mother to three children. I have tried never
to let my profession stand in the way of being a good parent. I no longer
consider myself the center of the universe. I show up. I listen. I try to
laugh. I am a good friend to my husband. I have tried to make marriage vows
mean what they say.


I am a good friend to my friends, and they to me. Without them, there would
be nothing to say to you today, because I would be a cardboard cutout. But I
call them on the phone, and I meet them for lunch. I would be rotten, or at
best mediocre at my job, if those other things were not true. You cannot be
really first rate at your work if your work is all you are.

So here's what I wanted to tell you today:

Get a life. A real life, not a manic pursuit of the next promotion, the
bigger paycheck, the larger house. Do you think you'd care so very much
about those things if you blew an aneurysm one afternoon, or found a lump in
your breast? Get a life in which you notice the smell of salt water pushing
itself on a breeze over Seaside Heights, a life in which you stop and watch
how a red tailed hawk circles over the water or the way a baby scowls with
concentration when she tries to pick up a sweet with her thumb and first
finger. Get a life in which you are not alone.

Find people you love, and who love you. And remember that love is not
leisure, it is work. Pick up the phone. Send an e-mail. Write a letter.

Get a life in which you are generous. And realize that life is the best
thing ever, and that you have no business taking it for granted. Care so
deeply about its goodness that you want to spread it around. Take money you
would have spent on beers and give it to charity. Work in a soup kitchen. Be
a big brother or sister.

All of you want to do well. But if you do not do good too, then doing well
will never be enough. It is so easy to waste our lives, our days, our hours,
our minutes. It is so easy to take for granted the color of our kids' eyes,
the way the melody in a symphony rises and falls and disappears and rises
again. It is so easy to exist instead of to live. I learned to live many
years ago. I learned to love the journey, not the destination.

I learned that it is not a dress rehearsal, and that today is the only
guarantee you get. I learned to look at all the good in the world and try to
give some of it back because I believed in it, completely and utterly. And I
tried to do that, in part, by telling others what I had learned. By telling
them this:

Consider the lilies of the field. Look at the fuzz on a baby's ear. Read in
the back yard with the sun on your face. Learn to be happy. And think of
life as a terminal illness, because if you do, you will live it with joy and
passion as it ought to be lived.

In Loving Memory

The 30th June 2007 marks the 11th anniversary of the passing of my brother

On Sunday night I sat at home and just got this overwhelming feeling come over me. I always wondered what this empty feeling i feel inside was all about. Thought maybe i have it cause i am single but realised it is not that cause even when i was with someone i still felt the emptiness. Then it came to me, even though my brother has been dead for 11years it was his absence that made me feel empty inside. That was shocking for me to discover but definately made sense after sitting there and thinking about it.

The death of a loved one or even someone close to you is never really easy and i think what makes it hard for us is the way we deal with it. Some people deal with the loss of a loved one by death and some people deal with it within time and then you have some people who just blocks it out and others who deals with it right there and then as it happens. Either way it is never really easy. I had someone ask me "Why do you still find the loss of your brother so hard after 11yrs?" and i told that person that i live my life the way my brother did and there are still many things that reminds me of him and its not just a feeling that i would just like to forget.

The day he died is still as clear as night but now i am starting to smile when i think of it. I think my time for mourning my brother has come to its end and i think my time for celebrating his life has started. I think of the one most important thing at this point and that is, i may have lost my brother on earth but heaven has gained another angel!!!!!! Even though he no longer is here, his memory still lives on and he will always be loved and 10years from now i will look back and say my brother is up there looking down on me and is here with me in spirit.

I will always love you

Dedicated to Clinton

Sep 1977-June 1996

Chatting

What is the difference?????

I find that on a daily basis people are complaining about online chatting and chat programs for your mobile phone or pc. Most of the time it stems from young kids ending up with sending naked pictures of themselves or married people ending their marriages cause they met someone online and prefers that person and the way they do things. Last week i received an email title "Mxit again" for some of you who knows this mxit is a chat software for your mobile phone. Well in the email was two pics of a 15year old girl posing in it which she had sent to a contact of hers.

I remember the person who forwarded the email saying how can we stop mxit from being used. Now my view is, is it mxits fault or is it the two teenagers in question thats at fault? i mean yes they are chatting via mxit and its their private conversation so clearly the pic exchange is private to, so now they choose to send each other these pics so i would say that is a personal and private choice right? so why bash and blame mxit? what is the difference between Mxit, Migg33, Bluepulse (these are all chat softwares for mobile phones)? Then also what is the difference if you go online into a chat room and invite someone to a private chat and they want a pic or two of you.

What is the difference? who is at fault? the chat programs and chat rooms or is it the way people use it? from personal experience, i have met so many people online its not funny really but you know what is amazing, every one is special in their own ways. How and what you do with the friendship or relationship is really up to you and that other person. If you chose to be more intimate with some and not with others , its your life and your choice. But always keep in mind that you have to be careful in whatever it is you do. i dont think the chat programs and chatrooms are to blame for what young teenagers and even married people are doing, i think its a personal issue and its personal choice. Its the people who do these things not the programs and that is one thing i think people need to realise...............

Friendship

There comes a time in ones life where you sit down and think how incredibly lucky you are to have amazing friends in your life. The question is do we take the time to thank them for always being there for you when you need them the most? Also are you as good enough a friend to them as well when they need you the most? Most of all how do you know that you have a good friend or a good bunch of friends? well the answer to that one is pretty easy, your bestfriend or friends define who you are. Most of the time only time will tell who your friends are and who isnt....

Last week i realised that little did i know i had a bestfriend who genuinely has the touch of a very good friend of mine. It boggled me at first cause of the way i found out but when i think about it i realise that its actually amazing. The person who i least expected to be a good friend ended up being just that.Let see i was depressed last week about something and whenever i am like that amazingly this person always calls me or sends me a message to find out how im doing. That is what shocked me cause the person never speaks to me at all but always pops up the second something is wrong with me. My friend says its a feeling that cant be explained but just knows that contact must be made and when its made the reason is revealed.

I now know what bonds i hold with all friends and i now know who are the close ones and who are not so much the close ones but at the end of the day they are my friends and im happy that i get to share my daily happenings and life with so many amazing people and i feel honoured that they feel the same way i do and think the same way i do. i think one should take the time once in a while to sit down and think of how valuable ones friends are and take the time to show them and tell them!!!!

Thanks: Fairy, Lollipop, Sassie, Daya, Nemo, Papi, $Force, T.I.Pain