Burn

A Loss

A friend of mine experienced something yesterday that i think no one would like to experience in life and that would be the loss of property to flames. He is a very strong person through this yet when you know him as well as i do the loss is killing him. Just as he gets his life back on track again after so many years of trying to sort himself out it all gets taken away by someone elses vengences to get even. Whats not right is that, that person seeked vengance from someone else and not from him yet at the end of the day he is left with nothing as his house burned to the ground leaving him with only the clothes on his back and the car he drives.

what is sad for me is that just knowing how hard this person worked to sort his life out its still shocking to know that everything he has worked for and hard for that matter is now all gone. yes i know materialistic things arent important but the hard work, sweat and tears put into that is what matters. so this is really a downer. i cant even begin to imagine how families who loses to fires lives must after that. this is one guy what about a family of four or even six.

i hope that there are people out there that can help others get back what they once had. Cause a loss to anything could drive someone to do anything they are not expected to do if they do not have the necessary or required support to help them through a tough time like this. One thing people should always keep in mind is that god has a plan for everyone and if losing something or someone is in his plan you will go through every emotion cause he will make sure of that. All one has to do when you are going through this is trust, believe and have faith that all will be well and go as it must........

The end

A dying friendship

About 8months ago i met this brilliant young man, initially when we met i had thought he was older then me cause when you sat and spoke to him you would think his at a good age. Well he was actually a year younger then me but that never phased us cause the friendship was good.

This guy ended up taking on a role of bestfriend and brother and me i actually took on the role of bestfriend and sister. Whenever he needed someone to talk to i was the one he ran to and when i needed someone to talk to i would always go to him. you always find someone in your path of life that you can really relate to and enjoy ever moment you spend with that person. Also you end up being so happy in that friendship, arguing and disagreements doesnt even cross your mind. But what happens when suddenly you get a message saying the friendship ends?

I for one felt crap but the reason that was given is understandable. what i think is really good is that still at the end of the day you not mad at that person but you actually grant them well wishes for the future. I just hope that him moving to another country is going to help him grow even more then he has and that when he is the person he wants to be again he will call me and say the normal "Hey sis hows it going?"

The loss of a person is never easy and how we deal with it isnt easy either but what doesnt kill you makes you stronger!!!!

Case of the EX!!

It all falls down

Recently i went through a break up which i thought was in my best interest to just cut my loses and call it a day and carry on with life and try to learn from my experience. As it was a long distance relationship and let me emphasize very long distance relationship.

As the person thats doing the breaking up you sit and try to think of ways to salvage what little is left from the relationship, just so that you dont end up breaking the other persons heart. Like me for example i was the one to end it cause i felt like more of a need then a girlfriend and some how someway he managed to turn things around and call me selfish for ending it and not giving us a chance. little did he know that all the warnings that was sent his way was me giving him chance after chance and clearly he didnt take note of that.

But what happens when that persons feelings turns into anger or rage? well they act on it and there are always serious implications. One thing i have learned is that no matter what people say break up is hard for the person doing the break up and the person being broken up with. At the end of the day they become your ex for a reason. I am a firm believer of people deserve second chances in life yes but when it comes to relationships in a romantic way there is just no going back, it is extremely hard to give that person a second chance, why?

Cause they will always hold you to your wrongs and thats why with a break up it should all fall down and end!!!!!

Win or Lose

Doesnt Matter What Its Still A Good Thing...........

I was sitting last night and chatting to a few friends whilst we were waiting for a soccer/football match to start. One of them looked at me and asked "So what if your team loses tonight and yall get kicked out, how you going to feel about it". I looked at him and smiled saying "It happens to everyone". He inturn replied saying "you have no enthuasiasm or convidence in your team them". I asked him what his point was and he couldnt answer me.

Eventually when the game was finished, it ended with a draw but my team was still kicked out simply because when we played the team two weeks ago they won us 1-0 so on aggregate they won us 2-1 to go through to the quaterfinals. he looked at me and asked me why i was smiling when my team who was in the finals last year was just kicked out before reaching the quarter finals what was wrong with me.

I turned to him saying, They may have lost and have been kicked out of one of the biggest tournaments in the world but they have gained something and that is knowledge and experience. They can now go back to the drawing boards and discuss what they did wrong, where it went wrong and how they are going to improve on it next season. He looked at me extremely shocked and said to me that for the first time i made sense.

At the end of the day no matter what the end result whether it be sport, work, life or love, you always have two options, two ways about things. Win or Lose you always gain something from it and one things for sure and i know in sport they have a brillaint saying that goes "Win or Lose, We Are Still A Team" and at the end of the day, that is all that matters still being a team at the end of it.

Enough of the rant im out!!!!!!!!